Font Size » Large | SmallBy Kris Beaird I believe that God blesses us so that we can be a blessing to others! However, I was thinking about how many times I have chosen to just accept whatever is and not believe for more. Then I remembered our foster son, Kirk. When our two older sons were ages three and six, we became acquainted with a couple who were foster parents for a boys’ group home in Denver, Colorado. They brought the dozen boys to our church on Sundays for a couple years. There was a turnover, of course. Most of them were short-term until a more permanent home was found or until they turned eighteen. Our hearts were drawn to Kirk. He was twelve years old and his mom was temporarily unable to care for him. We made arrangements for him to spend the day with us, then gradually the weekend. Finally, it worked out for us to have him live with us. We all knew it would be temporary. We realized there would be adjustments and a counselor was provided for us through the changes. Kirk adapted well to my husband and to our sons. However, he always held me at a distance. I tried not to take it personally, but it was difficult feeling like I was invisible day after day while performing all the “mom” duties and desiring a connection. When Kirk turned fourteen, his mom was able to take him back and we kept in touch with them for awhile. About five years later, Kirk looked us up. It was amazing to see the man he had become and contemplate the small part that we played in his life. I don’t know why, but this memory came back to me recently when I was thinking about the concept of abundance versus the scarcity mindsets. I believe Kirk was afraid to become attached to me because he felt it would be disloyal to his own mother, but all along he could have had two moms instead of one. We must choose to believe that there’s more than enough! The Bible says, “God can do anything, you know – far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! He does it not by pushing us around, but by working within us, his Spirit deeply and gently within us” (Ephesians 3:20, MSG). Here’s the thing: Scarcity people live on the “NO” side of life, which is limiting and fearful! It’s easy because you don’t have to do anything except stay in your comfort zone. It appears to be safer, but it’s really not. We are only lying to ourselves. What about when the “rug of life” is pulled out from under us without our permission? Then the comfort zone is gone anyway! Scarcity people are protection people who build walls and shoot intruders. If we stay home to protect what we have, we’ll never leave home for something better. Now let’s talk about Abundance people. They live on the “YES” side of life! It’s exciting and very enlarging. Abundance creates more capacity. The law of magnetism attracts other abundant-minded people who aren’t afraid of running out of “pie” or resources. They just make more pie to share. No problem! Perhaps it’s time to break through from the “NO” side of life to the “YES” side. How many times have I felt limited to one choice when there are really many options available? This year I want to explore and expand my experiences and relationships that are out of my comfort zone. Why have only one when I can experience many? Think about that for yourself. What options are just over the hillside to where you are now? They exist; you just haven’t seen them yet. Keep your eyes open! Take a look at the differences between Scarcity People and Abundant People. Who do you want to be and who do you want to be around? Kris Beaird, a licensed minister, has served for ten years as the Women’s Network National Leader for Open Bible Churches. Kris conducts workshops, seminars, keynote speaking, and coaching as a certified John Maxwell coach, teacher, trainer, and speaker. You may contact her at: www.johncmaxwellgroup.com/krisbeaird.